book by Colm Toibin
Love - something above us or just our subconscious
You know that feeling? When to decide on important life steps, and then, when you have almost decided ... bam, a fatal turn.
It sounds awful, but it can also be a mitigating circumstance. Everything is good for something, apparently. Furthermore, what was your influence on the outcome of your “fate“?
The book is an otherwise pleasant, slightly comical story of a young girl from Ireland who goes to look for a better life in America in the ‘50s of the 20th century. On the other hand it offers much more as it gets involved with the emotional complexity of situations which people face rather rarely, yet it can also be applied to everyday life.
“A piercing story about how quietly and unexpectedly and irrevocably things can go wrong. Pin-perfect psychological realism” by Sam Leith, from the Daily Mail.
Eilis is married to an American, but when she returns home for a short visit after her sister's death, she falls in love with a boy from her youth. She wants to stay at home and forget her life across the sea. It would even be feasible, since she hasn’t told anyone about her marriage. But destiny leads her neighbor to find out from the other immigrants and spread the word as a mark of her unfaithfulness.
The primary reason that the girl wanted to conceal her marriage was the homelessness she was following all the time of immigration. Deep inside she always wanted to stay home. We all know that each love will reflect some past experiences and identifications, positive and negative, especially from our childhood. Both of her decisions, the relationship in America and love affair at home reflects her emotional, irrational state.
The book is a gentle warning to all of us that no action is left without consequences. What is not tragic only forces us to really try to weigh our decisions to the fullest extent, and then accept responsibility for them. That's the hardest thing.
FYI this photos are taken in Montana, not in Brooklyn. But the history of this little gold mining town resembles similar history of people moving here to find new opportunities.
To be continued…